“Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” (Rumi)

I believed that what I had or have in common with people brings us together. We’ll automatically click. We’ll get along like peas and carrots go together. I always lived in the interstices between spaces, never fully belonging in any particular place, so naturally I assumed I’d manage. When we moved to Libya I had very high expectations. I wasn’t pollyannishly convinced that all would … Continue reading “Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” (Rumi)

FREE

It happened again. Something. Anything really at this point could send me out to pasture. The triggers had added up so much that it seemed anything could set me off. I had bottled up enough already. It was time to release. They say routines and self care are crucial to mental health. Of course I knew this, but most of the time I spent convincing … Continue reading FREE

Choices

I want to laugh out loud, so just pretend I did. Now I’ll tell you why. A few days ago I wrote a piece about how racism and discrimination can make one want to do horrible things (like bake a disgusting cake to serve your nemesis) and watch them have at it, gleeful in the knowledge that you underhandedly got the upper hand by introducing … Continue reading Choices

Tribal

I just finished listening to the 2003 Massey Lecture Series by Thomas King. He’s such an awesome story teller. Listening to him so wittily talking about everything that has gone on and continues to happen to us Natives is simultaneously heart-warming and heart-wrenching. I found myself laughing out loud, and yelling “Yes! Exactly!” thank Goodness I listen on my own in the car. But by … Continue reading Tribal

Restless (guest post)

I don’t know if it’s all the chocolate I ate today (it’s Easter Sunday), or it’s the myriad thoughts that run around ceaselessly in my brain. My mom is visiting. She’s a lovely woman, quiet, dignified, appeasing. She has a very peculiar way of showing her disapproval. Those of us who know her well always take it with a grain of salt, because we know … Continue reading Restless (guest post)

Balancing Act

I’m always balancing Inbetween spaces Not quite here nor there But holding onto everything I know Jealously So as not to fall into oblivion Not stable in any one milieu Often shoved over the edge But I manage to hold on Unnoticed Until I attempt to get a greater grip I grasp and tug and pull myself up again But it’s only a matter of … Continue reading Balancing Act

Why I Don’t Give Parenting Advice

Are you quick to try out every new parenting system, are you sick and tired of people telling you how to parent, are you just trying to get away from old parenting tropes, or are you trying to find your own zone? Continue reading Why I Don’t Give Parenting Advice